How to parent… this has got to be one of life’s great mysteries. You’ll often spend so much time reading parenting books and uncovering the best approaches just to realize that you still have no idea what you’re doing even when your kids do come along. But you don’t have to panic. And you certainly don’t have to feel like a bad parent. Instead, you just need to find a balance. No matter what you believe in, how you want to parent, or what you want for your kids, you’ll find that being a firm but fun parent can get you the results you want. After all, your job is to guide your children, but you also love them and want the best for them, so working in a little fun is always a good idea. Let’s look at how you can do it.
How To Be A Firm But Fun Parent
When it comes to the firm side of parenting, you need to work out where you stand on discipline and how you’re going to execute it. And no, we’re not talking about telling your kids off. That’s the end of the spectrum. Ideally, you want to ensure that your kids are disciplined enough not to need telling off. The best way to do that is to set boundaries. When you’re firm, you follow through, and you lay out expectations, you should find that your children respond well.
Lead By Example
A lot of the time, you think that you need to tell your children what to do. But this rarely works. Because you can’t contradict yourself and expect results. Instead, you want to lead by example. You know that kids imitate and they pick up on things. So if you’re respectful, kind, compassionate, and you stand by the values that you’re trying to teach your children, you should find that this starts to rub off on your children.
Now, we’re going to get to the fun part. Because you’re doing a great job on the parenting side of things, you now want to make sure that you can all just enjoy your lives together. Being a positive parent is a huge part of that. Because your children will be positive too. When you can all focus on the good together, you’ll find that there’s a lot more fun and enjoyment in your household.
Plan In Your Fun
But don’t just expect to have fun without really planning for it. You need to make sure that you’re having days out, like to the local escape room, and spending time with friends and family too. Even vacations can help too. Just make sure that you’re planning time together so that everyone can have fun.
Nurture, Don’t Control
Above all else, you need to remember that you’re there to nurture potential. Don’t see your role as the controller or the provider. Smother your kids can only end up one way. Instead, let them find their feet and guide them. When you’re firm, you have fun, and you let them be themselves, you’ll find that parenting isn’t so bad after all.